It is common for men to get married when they are young, and for women to get married when they are young. It is also an eternal natural law: marriage is the bond of the family, and the family is the cell of society. In today’s society that advocates stability, unity, social stability, and the construction of a harmonious society, under the influence of the traditional culture of “family harmony brings prosperity”, a happy marriage and a stable family are the common aspirations of people.
With the development of society, people’s views on marriage have also undergone significant changes. With openness and the integration of Eastern and Western cultures, modern marriages seem to have become more fragile, and divorce rates are increasing year by year. Freaks such as materialism, polyamorous relationships, and extramarital affairs are eroding and threatening the stability of people’s families.
A beautiful marriage is what people dream of, and a beautiful love story is the eternal theme of humanity.
I wish to be a winged bird in heaven and a connected branch on earth.
May we all be blessed with longevity. Though far apart, we are still able to share the beauty of the moon together..
The timeless masterpieces of love, such as Tian Xian Pei, Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai, Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu in Dream of the Red Chamber, and Du Shiniang’s angry sinking of a hundred treasure chests, have been passed down from generation to generation and never tire of listening to them
However, what people yearn for the most is also what they find most difficult to obtain. There are not many beautiful marriages in the world. Why do some marriages have harmony and beauty, with white hair and white hair. Why do some couples love each other but part ways. Why can some noisy people stay with their enemies for a lifetime. Why do some couples break up as soon as they have a quarrel, and the broken mirror is difficult to reconcile. Why do some people fall in love at first sight when they talk about a partner, and hate to meet late. Some people, by chance, become widowed and lonely.
There are various forms of marriage in the world, which can be gathered, dispersed, and separated, all in the palm of a strange door.
Love Triangle Theory
The love theory proposed by American psychologist Stenberg holds that love consists of three basic components: passion, intimacy, and commitment.
Passion is a state of intense desire to bond with the other person. Simply put, it means that when you meet the other person, you will have a heart pounding feeling. Being with the other person, there is an exciting experiential need, which is the dominant form of arousing passion. Other factors such as self-esteem, care, belonging, and domination and obedience are also the sources of awakening passionate experiences.
Intimacy is an experience of feeling close and warm between two people. Simply put, it can bring a warm feeling and experience to people.
The 10 basic elements of intimacy:
① Desire to promote the happiness of loved ones.
② Feeling happy when being with loved ones.
③ When they do things together, they all feel very happy and leave beautiful memories. Memories of these wonderful times can become comfort and strength in difficult times. Moreover, the beautiful moments shared together will flow into the mutual love relationship and make it even more beautiful.
④ Respect each other.
⑤ Understand each other with the loved one.
⑥ Share oneself and one’s possessions with the beloved.
⑦ Accept emotional support from the loved one.
⑧ Provide emotional support to the loved one. In adversity, the loving party should have a close spiritual connection with the beloved party and provide emotional support.
⑨ Communicate warmly with the loved one.
⑩ Cherish the beloved.
Promise refers to the decision, expectation, or guarantee to maintain a relationship. A commitment consists of two aspects: short-term and long-term.
① In the short term, it is necessary to make a decision whether to love someone or not.
② In the long run, it is a commitment to maintaining this love relationship, including loyalty and a sense of responsibility towards love. That is to say, the “I do” mentioned in the wedding oath is a promise to stand together through thick and thin, and remain steadfast until death.
Both may not necessarily be present at the same time. For example, deciding to love someone, but not necessarily willing to take responsibility or make promises; Or decide to love only him/her for the rest of their life, but not necessarily say it out loud.
Intimacy is warm, passion is passionate, and commitment is calm.
These three components constitute seven types of love: liking love, infatuation love, hollow love, romantic love, companion love, foolish love, and perfect love.
According to research by relevant institutions, the high divorce rate is caused by the following reasons:
- Extramarital affairs have become an important reason for divorce.
- Personality discord and decreased emotional quality are important reasons for divorce.
- One of the reasons for the gap is that one side pursues without stopping, while the other stagnates, resulting in a lack of progress.
- Different ways of controlling money and material possessions lead to divorce.
- Focusing on career development and neglecting the care of one’s spouse can easily lead to temper tantrums. When the wilderness of the soul dries up, emotions will naturally develop cracks. Pursuing true love as a reason for breaking up is an inevitable consequence.
- The increase in long-distance and foreign-related marriages has also laid hidden dangers for divorce.
- The involvement of close relatives such as parents of both spouses becomes a separating agent in the marital relationship. wait.
